Fashion??
We know and we have seen fashion as Cat walk by the models at the beach of Monaco, where we see the latest upgrades by all the international brands, isn’t it?
We focus more on the yellow nail paint, pink pants and the latest green lip color!!
But do we ever listen to the commentary behind the visuals? Does that say about culture?
Do we know that Fashion is all about the culture that we leave behind for generations to follow?
Wait, but the teasers are about brides, weddings, confused?
The venue where we can observe original culture is weddings! But none of us focus on what is followed but on the entire attire of the bride!
Here we see, the culture we leave behind in modern weddings!
Episode 1
Something old
He
7:30 am: rushing hour for the students, at the window she waits, to see him walking with his well fitted Khaki trousers and clean white shirt, which is the uniform for most of the students in the city. (She doesn’t know and doesn’t care either which school or what he studies!) As he walks, she feels thousand butterflies fluttering in her chest, which she wants to release them at once! However, like the whole world she too believes, how can a girl express herself to a boy?
She has to hold herself there. Otherwise, the boy whom she likes will think that she is desperate!
Ten years later…
She
With a top-class professional degree and a 5 digit monthly earnings, he is ‘the eligible bachelor’ that any girl would want to settle down!
It is in the parking area, he was all set to propose to his ‘dream girl’. As he approaches her expressing from his whole heart, within seconds she refuses to marry him! She is an ultra-modern forward-thinking girl who believes wedlock is only for ‘old souls’!
Muhurtham
Dawn at their big day appeared in deep orange.
It is an arranged marriage, by the parents of the Bride and the Groom. This part of Southern India, the culture of choosing a girl for the boy is the tradition that they follow since ages.
Bride
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The side braid knot (Aandal Kondai – Tamil) on her head decorated with Kempu (Ruby) and white pearls with golden rings in between. 8 stoned ‘Cartier’ Diamond stud paired with Jumkha (earring) with white Diamonds, Ruby, Emerald and little pearls hanging in the end, mango shaped Haram (long chain on the chest) filled with Emerald stones and her diamond choker with a large Ruby stone in the middle. Hands were filled with Diamond bracelets covered by 6 gold bangles on each hand. Ohh, that Ruby red Saree with 98% pure gold and silver strings in it, hand woven by the best weavers from Conjeevaram (now this place is called as ‘Kancheepuram’). The crowd was more interested in all the above than the man who would bring her ‘that’ jewelry for her soul!
She appeared in silence while she was prepared to accept what is comes in her wedlock. Her thoughts wandered; she whispered inside to herself who in the world said that a women cannot express herself to a man?! If so, why Swayamvara was in practice? Was it only a vision by Valmiki, that in Ramayana, where Sita was allowed to choose ‘Rama’? No one can deny that Sita went through numerous tests and troubles (oh, may be challenges in modern language), even in her thoughts, she never left Rama! Why this world still doesn’t think if a women chose her man, she would never leave him!
The Guest
He grabs the attention of the whole crowd, ‘Hey wow!! Dude, you know him? Is he your friend?, friends started questioning to the Bride and the Bridegroom, ‘No, I don’t know, who he is?May be some far relative or friend of friends, I never invited such person,’ same response from both. ‘How come yaa? He is that famous you-tuber, dude your wedding become talk show now!!’
Oh yes, this is an Indian wedding, ‘Atithi Devo bhava’!!
Bridegroom
His toe held rings of Kolhapuri footwear, legs were wrapped with silk Dhoti in Panchagajam style, ‘silk white’ kurta supported by Silk angavastram on his shoulders, he wonders, ‘I wanted a life with a girl with modern thoughts, how in the world that I agreed for an arranged marriage?! And ready to hold the hands of an unknown’!!On the other side, the bride’s father whispers in her ears’, ‘my dear, I hope I gave you what you wanted as a marriage’!
While waiting to see her man, this daddy’s little girl sitting on her father’s lap, turns to the crowd, as he walks in, is he the one in Khakhi trousers and white shirt appeared in front of her?!
Episode 2
Something New
They eloped!
Yes, because not all marriages are encouraged and accepted! When it comes to `acceptance’, human tendency is to decline our own negatives and also see another person’s positive as negative if we do not accept it!
2020, The land of Tulips
On the day of wedding ceremony, she looked in the mirror while she takes an image of her shoulder-less white French lace wedding dress,
embossed with white pearls, from Stella York, France. The latest phone with the camera that had inbuilt filter to make her look beautiful even more!
Her thoughts wandered about the people who were gathered. 7 people in total and all of them are from her workplace, they accepted this wedding because of the position that she held at her workplace and all of them reported to her! Her ´closest friends`, whom she thought, did not attend the wedding and were worried about their ‘social image’, if they are friends with this person!
I have the support of people who are present here and they all see me as a strong woman with a great job, position and bank balance in millions, but my strength is purely because of the one who accepted me is ‘her’.
Astounding everyone, she stepped out in her soft romantic A-line gown crafted with Caluso chiffon and laces from France, the layers allow it to look sheer without giving too much away, open V neck at the back with thin straps and hand placed laces all over the sheer.
She stood ‘alone’ with no people around, no big job profile and no big bank balance but a true strength on her own and for me! She looked nothing but stunning in every angle!
We are into new normal, where men and women fear about heterosexual wedding, I wonder at these two ladies, how courageous to walk hand in hand in their ‘authentic self’.
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